I am so happy and grateful that I had the opportunity to chat with my cousin this week. You know one of those cousins that you meet on Day One, and you all click like best friends.
We met around age 10/11 years old, on a vacation with my siblings. We chatted under the covers, snickering and talking about boys, not knowing how long our friendship would last.
Now in our 30’s we still connect and call each other at midnight on our Birthdays. She has inspired the topic of the blog post today, to revisit the definition of self worth and how to apply self worth to improve the quality of our personal lives.
I didn’t know that I needed a new lesson in self worth. I assumed that after many lifestyle changes, my outlook on myself was mostly positive. I’ll admit, I need a tune up. Don’t we all need an upgrade, to rewrite stories we repeat to ourselves?
Dee and I are learning through one another’s life experiences — What is self worth?
According to the Merriam-Webster online, “a sense of one’s own value as a human being”. A simpler version describes self worth as “a feeling that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect”.
It starts with a feeling and a relationship with yourself. How you treat yourself and what you ask for, teaches other how you want to be treated. It sounds elementary, however in practice, with your shoulders back and your head held high, demands respect.
“The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts – it gives you what you demand with your actions.”
— Steve Maraboli
I appreciate that Dee, allowed me to help her editing her persuasive essay. My ability to help her reminds me that I have many valuable skills to offer the world, we all do. We all as individuals are given skills and tools that we sharpen overtime that are now apart of our daily habits. Knowing who I am, what I have to offer, and using my gifts to help others, brings me joy and affirms my self worth.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her. ”
— –– Lao Tzu
I encourage you to look at yourself in the mirror, and affirm yourself daily:
- I am valuable.
- I am precious.
- I am capable of achieving my goals.
- I am healed, forgiven, and open to new beginnings.
- I will do my best, and never settle for less.
- I can do whatever I set my mind and hands to do.
- I am worthy of love, kindness and tenderness.
“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person. ”
— Fred Rogers